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Integrity Matters

I love the National Center for Fathering. First off, how cool is that name? Secondly, what dad couldn't use a 'center' devoted to helping him be the best dad he can be? I know I can!

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And then, enjoy this article below, and go look for more great info on their website!

Carrying On,


Have you looked at Titus chapter 2 in a while? There's a section of Scripture there that's deep for us dads.
Paul was encouraging Titus to coach people in the church about how to behave. In verse 2, it says, "Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance." I am in my fifties, so I guess that's for me.
He goes on to speak about teaching women, then comes back to younger men. He says, "encourage the young men to be self-controlled."
Then, in verse 7, Paul writes: "In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us" (emphasis added).
Those thoughts about being an example to younger men really hit home for me. I have two sons who are young men (one still a teenager), as well as two sons-in-law. And I take my role seriously when it comes to modeling. I'm very aware that they are watching what I do, and I want to be my very best for them.
Let me encourage you, too, to strive for a great reputation, where no one has anything bad to say about you. Not that you're hiding your faults and sins or showing your good side only when you're in public, but you're actually living with integrity all the time, and people can't help noticing -- especially your kids.
I think about my grandfather on my mother's side. He died when I was very young. I heard stories about his early years, when he hung out in bars and had a reputation as a heavy drinker. But I only heard about that years later, and it was a surprise to me.
Later on he became a Christian, and that reputation far exceeded and overshadowed his difficult past. He changed his ways, and that's what people remembered about him, including me. It's just amazing.
So dad, I simply want to remind you -- with Paul's help -- about the power of modeling. Your integrity matters, in public and in private. How will people think of you when you're gone? How will your children think of you? Have you provided any reasons for people to speak bad of you?
Whether you consider yourself "older" or "younger," I would challenge you to check out those verses in Titus 2, meditate on them, and see how God might be speaking to you.
Keep up the good work, dad.
Carey Casey
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