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This was a worksheet that a pastor friend gave me several years back when I started doing counseling. It's simple and easy to follow along, and has been something I've used, not just with married couples, but in other areas of relational conflict as well.
Consider adding it to your personal toolbox so the next time you find yourself facing conflict, you can DIFFUSE it!
How to Diffuse
Conflict in Your Marriage:
D - DEFINE the
problem (on your own).Proverbs
I - INITIATE a
time to talk.Matthew 5:23-24
F - FOCUS on the
“perceived” problem, not the person.Proverbs 18:19
F - FEEL their
pain (as though it were your own).Proverbs 17:17
U - UNCOVER the
root problem.Proverbs 20:5
SymptomRoot MoneyValues, Priorities,
History / Baggage
WorkRoles and/or GoalsExperiencing
God’s Dream ForConflict
S - SET things
right between you.James 5:16
2.Confess - “I was
wrong. . .”
3.Ask forgiveness -
“Will you forgive me?”
ESTABLISHa specific action plan that
addresses the issue discussed
When my wife and I bought our home in the Northern Kentucky area, it was quite an experience. We had a great Realtor® with whom I am now privileged to work. I can only imagine the things he must have thought about us, showing up to look at houses with our two young boys, talking about if a room was big enough...what was that smell...why would they put the switch over here...
Ah, those were the days!
Thankfully, we didn't actually fight (that I remember) about anything considering a house. We both had a concept together of what we wanted, and a price range. And outside of those things, I didn't care as long as she was happy. No really, I didn't! As long as I could have air conditioning and hot water, I was good!
However, that is not the experience everyone has.
Today, I am actually going to share a link that will take you to Realtor.com. The article was written earlier this year by Stephanie Barth, a writer, and contributor to several publications. She took this concept of…
A home that isn't being maintained like others in the neighborhood
can negatively affect your visual sense of appeal and in some extreme
cases, even affect property values. It might be an overgrown yard, a
fence in need of repair, excessive noise, unruly pets, paint peeling on
the home or even a car or boat parked in front of the home that hasn't
moved in weeks.
Most people want to be good neighbors and may be willing to correct
an issue once it is brought to their attention. A practical, but
possibly confrontational, solution is to contact the responsible person
and describe your perception of the issue. However, they may not always
agree with the same urgency and it might be necessary to seek other
An owner-occupant may be more sympathetic to the neighbors and
willing to correct the issue. If you think the home might be a rental
property, check with the county tax records to identify the owner. They
may be unaware of the situation and welcome the…
Carbon monoxide is a silent killer you don't want in your home but
because it is colorless and odorless; you may not even be aware the
deadly condition exists. The Center for Disease Control says more than
400 people in the U.S. die annually from carbon monoxide poisoning and
over 10,000 require medical treatment each year.
Unmaintained furnaces, water heaters and appliances can produce the
deadly gas. In addition, other sources could be leaking chimneys,
unvented kerosene or gas space heaters or exhaust from cars or trucks
operating in an attached garage.
The Environmental Protection Agency suggests the following to reduce exposure in the home: Keep gas appliances properly adjustedInstall and use an exhaust fan vented to the outdoors over gas stovesOpen flues when fireplaces are in useDo not idle car inside garageHave a trained professional inspect, clean and tune-up central heating systems annually
Headaches, nausea, vomiting, dizziness and feelings of weakness or