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Tips for Marriages that Last

My wife and I have been married 10 years this May. It's been good, really. Not that we have never had problems to work out or communication issues to overcome, but we both understand a few things about marriage...

~First, we understand it is a covenant, not a contract. Contracts have loopholes and you can get out of them. Covenants are meant to be for life.

~Second, we realize neither of us is perfect, therefore we need to extend grace and mercy just as we need it for ourselves. That really helps when we want to maybe be angry.

~Third, we realize that we're much better together than apart, and nothing that happens can't be worked out if we'll put aside our own selfishness and focus on that is best for our family first.

Those simple tips have helped us over the few years we've been together, and I know they'll guide us for many more. Along with that, I read a great list of essentials for making marriage last from Dr. James Dobson recently. It was posted on the Family Talk Facebook page, and I thought it was worth sharing. don't just take my advice, take his... Dr. Dobson is much smarter than I am! HA!

Carrying On,

Devin



1. Reserve time for one another at all costs.


2. Spend only what you have — financial stress kills romance.


3. Leave no room for selfishness — be relationship givers and not takers.


4. Make sure the “leave and cleave” principle takes place (Genesis 2:24).


5. Bring your expectations in line with reality — the perfect spouse does not exist.
 
6. Trust one another and build reasonable boundaries —
jealousy and trust rarely co-exist.
 
7. Avoid alcohol or substance abuse, pornography, gambling and other potential
addictions that will quickly kill your marriage and your life.
 
8. Be content with having enough — “Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread” (Proverbs 30:8).
 
9. Think of your marriage as a marathon — you will need determination and faith to go the distance of a lifetime.

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